How to Love Yourself Unconditionally
Do you know what it means to love yourself
Do you know how to totally accept and embrace
Are you facing difficulties with loving
Just for a moment, tune in. Listen to your self-talk. Is the following self-talk true of you? -
are that you have been saying more negative than positive things to
yourself. Studies have in fact confirmed that we do 300-400
evaluations per day and the majority of it is negative. If your self-talk is
unkind, causes you to feel down and erodes you of your spirit, then you can be
said to be having some challenges with feeling good about yourself.
On the contrary, should you love yourself
absolutely, you will not be doing any of these. Instead, you will be supportive, compassionate
and not be constantly criticizing yourself. Hence, it is important that you start to observe what you have been saying to yourself. Then again, loving your encompasses more than just changing your self-talk.
Obviously, self-love rests on a continuum. Most of us do have some degree of self-love
and acceptance. However, at low or
insufficient levels, we can face tremendous difficulties with coping with
life. It is possible that we allow our self-talk
to overwhelm us to the point that we are unable to function well. Signs of self-sabotaging behavior include procrastination,
depression and addictive behavior such as drinking or an eating disorder. Self-sabotage patterns can affect us for years if we do not do anything about them.
You are Not Alone
I completely understand what it feels like to be facing difficulties with
self-love. You see, when I first began realizing
what my core issue was – being insufficient self-love – I had no idea where to
start. Self-love may appear to be a fundamental thing that everyone should know but for those who have been
living with debilitating stories for a long time, it is really not so simple.
If you have been feeling miserable about yourself,
then know that you are not alone. Having
received about 1,000 email confessions so far and still growing, suffice to
say, you are not the only one suffering. You see, for the past 3 years, I have been receiving emails every day
from people all over the world about their tremendous challenges with
self-love. They have written to me as a
result of my blog posts about self-love. Here are two particular email excerpts….
I am currently having problems in my relationship with my
boyfriend. He says most of our problems are from my lack of love for myself. He has recently told me that he dose not
believe that we are going to ever work out.
There is nothing more in this world that I want then for
this relationship to work. I do understand where he is coming from. The problem is that I do count on him for my
happiness. I already know that this is
unhealthy and I have seen counselors probably not long enough to do much good.
I am planning on going and giving it another try, but I am already guessing
that it would not help much. It feels
like there is just one more person in my life that is telling me how messed I
I am also wondering why I can want a great relationship with
my boyfriend and at the same time, be the one to cause problems. I just cannot stop being negative and
On the side, I do not know what to do without him. I have no accomplishments that I am proud
of. For a long time, I have not been
able to smile. I am in so much pain that
I keep away from my friends.
What am I suppose to do? How am I supposed to fall in-love
with myself when I am such a horrible person?
Rosalind from the United States
I am 28 years old, working as a Manager in a US MNC and
earning decently well above average. I have been working hard to be where I am
today. As compared to my friends and
relatives, I am in an enviable position because of my career growth.
Despite the outward appearances of achievement and success,
I feel horrible on the inside. I am so
hesitant of any change, taking risks/chances and pushing myself to greater
heights. I tend to give in to the
demands from every friend and colleague. I suffer from a lack of confidence.
I am aware that I look up to those with better-looking
features such as their height. I have a
tendency to attach more value to their most trivial
of achievements and undermine the best of my strengths.
At work, I know that I am able to do a job well, but
whenever the situation calls for leadership, I feel as if I just can’t live up
to it. And so, I try to be a good team
player but avoid taking the driver's seat at all costs.
I dislike the idea of being aggressive, rash, blunt, or
boastful, but then again, I also do not want to be a person with low
self-confidence, poor self-esteem and the biggest self-critic. Please tell me how I can convince myself that
I am not as weak and undeserving as I now believe I am.
Pete from Spain
Additionally, I have helping a number of my clients,
family and friends about their self-love issues too. From my findings, it is clear that
insufficient or the lack of self-love can cause much disruption to anyone’s
life. And if you ask me, we are living in
a world that is starved of love. It is
not that love is not available but we have been starving ourselves from our
Chances are that it has been hard to escape from the
constant bombardment of messages that made us believe how “not good enough” or
unlovable we are. We hear them from our
parents, friends, bosses, and media advertisements. In fact, we have been hearing these messages from the time we were born. It has been the case that ever since the time we were children, we have
been learning that we need perfect looks, top grades, titles, money and
status to be deemed worthy of love and respect. And so, we use these forms of identification to define who we are. Should we fall short, we find it hard to love ourselves.
Consequences of Low Self-Love
success can be harder to achieve if the voice inside your head becomes
overwhelming. You constantly judge
yourself for being “wrong”, “imperfect” or “not good enough”. You also apply labels such as a “failure”,
“loser” or “freak” on yourself. Admittedly,
it is difficult to experience any ounce of joy when you are convinced of the
debilitating stories that you tell yourself.
"Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is more important than the judgment we pass on ourselves." - Nathaniel Branden
you have been trapped in a negative mental state for so long, loving yourself
is not something that comes easily. Even
as you wish to break free from your inner critic, you had been facing problems
knowing where to start. You find
yourself drowning again and again in a whirl of self-pity, self-rejection and
Hence, it would seem that
loving yourself has to be a practice until the day that it becomes natural,
just like breathing. So it means that
you may just need to start from understanding the basics of what it means to love
yourself. Before going on to that, let’s look into the consequences of what happens when
there is a lack or low level of love:
You find it hard
to believe in yourself.
You criticize yourself constantly.
You believe that you are unworthy.
You are excessively hard on yourself, but
find it easy to be lenient towards others.
You have got low expectations for yourself.
When you look in the mirror, all you can
notice are your flaws, imperfections and faults.
You neglect self-care for instance, not
caring about your eating habits, not putting up a neat appearance and so on.
You often operate out of a fear of rejection.
You cannot function well in social groups.
You downplay your gifts, talents and
You have low self-confidence.
You feel lonely over long periods of time.
You suffer from bouts of depression or sudden
and inexplicable bouts of sorrow.
You constantly crave the approval of others.
You dull pain and feelings of unworthiness
through addictive behavior such as smoking, sex and shopping.
certainly, life can be more of a struggle especially if you are in the habit of
deriding yourself. It is hard to function well
when you are your greatest enemy. Invariably, you will
face problems in relationships, health, success, career and wealth. It is
possible to remain stuck in negativity for years, without knowing how to help
yourself out effectively.
what you need to realize is that it is not possible to enjoy abundance of any
form if you lack self-love. The
vibration of abundance is love. Love has
creative power. It creates everything
that you see around you. Manifesting
abundance can only begin with loving yourself. And so if you are hoping to enjoy some level of happiness or even to
create a great life, you will need to learn how to love yourself. In fact, the more self-love you have, the
greater your ability to manifest abundance.
"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and attention." - Buddha
Myth of Self-Care
one, holding on to myths can prevent you from loving yourself more fully. If
you believe that self-love is simply about having a long bath, a manicure,
massage or having your hair done, then you are sadly mistaken. Sure these self-care activities make you feel
good about yourself. Buying a branded
handbag or expensive car for yourself may be able to give you a high. However, these are just externals. The satisfaction
that you derive from them do not long last long. The excitement dies out - fast!
Hence, it is possible to be engaged in years of self-care but still face
difficulties with loving yourself. In
fact, by keeping yourself endlessly occupied with forms that engage your senses,
you may even miss the whole point about what it truly means to love
yourself. And so you get an instant perk
through these activities or material possessions but they do not transform you
from the inside. The rush of energy fizzles
out rather quickly.
The myth of self-care is one of the 6 misconceptions that my
book Self-Love Secrets explores. In my
book, I provided some answers to commonly asked questions. The answers are meant to kick-start anyone’s journey
towards healing, recovery and integration.
Self-love is about your being. It
encompasses more than just doing. Hence,
to truly love the self is more than a physical act of self-care, having
material goods, using mental force to will yourself or having the day off to rest. It is also more than saying positive things to yourself. Self-love necessarily involves the
mind-body-spirit. It incorporates an
eventually discover that you are the one that you seek. Answers to having a more successful life does
not lie outside but from within. It is
only when you search inside your heart that you will realize who you really
are. Your inner being shines with
luminescence, touching and inspiring everyone around you. You become alive and very much, awake.
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Who am I
My name is Evelyn Lim. My personal growth journey started more than 5
years ago, ever since I made the commitment for inner work. Because I have personally derived tremendous benefits
and have seen how my life has changed, I have gone on to offering coaching and
therapy assistance to others. I am now a
certified life coach, a published author, intuitive consultant, Master Neuro-Linguistic Practitioner
and EFT Practitioner.
I decided to write Self-Love Secrets after having received
several emails from the readers to my blog. I realized that there are many who are clueless in knowing how to begin
loving themselves. In many ways, they
reminded me about how it was like when I first found out that inadequate
self-love was the root cause of my problem. I had to scramble around for answers myself back then. The good thing was that I eventually came to
my own understanding about my issues. I
also discovered that I could help others with my insights.
Then again, when I first announced about writing a
book on Self-Love, I had no idea that it was going to take me months to finish
it. Once I got started, I discovered
that things were not so simple as compiling a bunch of tips. Eventually, I realized that I had to cover
everything I knew – which meant including spiritual perspectives as well. Hence, my book is not simply an instruction
manual but a book that helps create soul awareness. And so, it is a guide to getting started on
How to Love Yourself holistically; that is in mind, body and spirit.
What Self-Love Secrets Covers
Self-Love Secrets is written in a very
easy-to-understand format. Whether you
are 21 or 70 years old, you should be able to learn some useful things from
this book. It is a great starter guide
in your self-discovery journey.
book covers all three mind-body-spirit aspects of the practice. It gets your questions answered, helps you to
flip your negative self-talk to a positive one, equips you with strategies and
facilitates spiritual awareness. You
will learn about the importance of having balance, without tipping over to
self-deprecation or narcissism, in order to be healthy. You will find true self-love.
By reading my book, you will learn the following specifically:
How to get
started with loving yourself;
the 6 myths about self-love;
low self-love and esteem;
between self-love, esteem and confidence;
negative self-talk patterns you can possibly have;
childhood messages are fueling your self-talk;
core beliefs are driving your actions and behavior;
What is the one single root cause of your poor
ability to love yourself;
Flipping your negative self-talk to a positive
Keys to a mind-body-spirit approach to
Developing spiritual consciousness;
Benefits from living a life of love;
What your life journey on Earth is about;
And much much more.
For your practical application, I have also included three additional reports. They are as follows:
Self-Love Secrets -
40 Exercises on How to Love Yourself
Self-love is a practice. To learn how to love yourself, you need to transform your old habitual patterns. In this all-in-one accompanying book, get an amazing list of items on what you can do. The exercises described here can help you make the shift to a more loving you, once you put them in place.
Self-Love Secrets -
101 Affirmations for Loving Yourself
No idea what positive self-talk looks like? Here is a list of 101 affirmations that you can use as a guide.
101 Tips for Holistic Health
Loving yourself means taking care of your needs in a holistic way. Learn how to do this with this bonus report on 101 Tips for Holistic Health. Tips covered are on alternative and natural treatments.
Together with the bonus reports, the entire Self-Love
Secrets collection is meant to be able to help you develop a stronger footing
in loving yourself.
I have collated findings, research, case studies and results in order to write
this book. Most importantly, it includes
my personal experiences. I had earlier
taken notes from exploring my inner landscape. You will not find this book anywhere else.
I thought you may like to know that I have had the pleasure of receiving top endorsements from some authors and experts in the personal development field for my book. Here is what they have to say....
Evelyn Lim illustrates the importance of self-love so beautifully. She
unravels complex themes such as issues of worthiness, self acceptance
and self love to peel back the layers and explore our unlimited
potential. Each chapter covers in-depth topics to awaken your own
personal invitation to make the life-changing decision to love you once and for all!
Best-selling author to "The Power of Influence", award-winning entrepreneur, co-founder of Älska Publishing
I first knew Evelyn through her website and I was immediately impressed and inspired.
Her honesty, warmth, and wisdom shine through in everything she writes.
Evelyn’s Self Love Secrets is an insightful, comprehensive guide for anyone looking to love and accept themselves more fully.
Read it and feel good about yourself—in mind, body, and spirit!
Author of "Tiny Buddha: Simple Wisdom for Life's Hard Questions"
“Self-Love Secrets” surprised me. Not because it is a thoughtful and
well-researched guide to finding the radiant being within each of us that is
most-surely, worth loving but, because I discovered how many of the issues we
grapple with in our daily lives stem from a lack of self-love.
This book will
show you where to “dig” to unearth the hidden blockages that are keeping
self-love and your true happiness at bay. Evelyn Lim’s book showed me that
applying a little self-love goes a long way toward creating the happy and
fulfilling life each of us so deserves to live.
Author of "The Intuition Primer", Intuitive Coach
Self-Love Secrets will inspire, empower and uplift you on your own
self-love journey. Evelyn shares her own journey to self-love and I
found myself relating closely to many of the stages that Evelyn has
experienced and writes about.
The Seven Keys to self-love provide a wonderful starting point
whether you are starting out on the self-love journey or already on the
path. The tools and tips are practical and will help you move closer
inner peace, loving yourself unconditionally and raise you vibrations to
attract abundance into all areas of your life.
I love how Evelyn has used her own stories, stories from real live
people and what for me was really special was the use of fables. These
are very powerful.
Ready to really embrace your own self-love journey? Make sure you read Self-Love Secrets today.
Author of "Emergings-A Meditation on the Emotions of Change"
I got home today after leading a women's retreat yesterday,
and one of the issues we focused on was compassion towards
ourselves. Then I settled down and spent some time with your book and so
much of what you said was exactly what we were talking about. In fact,
when you get your book out, I'm going to send the information to the women from
the retreat because I think your book would be great follow up for them.
As you have observed, self-love is common in many cultures. At our retreat, we talked about how self-love might look like self-conceit or arrogance. Your book makes the difference clear, and explains why self-love is critical to our health and our emotional and spiritual well-being. Your book offers a perfect balance of your own story, story-parables, real stories of other people, people, inspiring quotations, careful research and pract
ical how-to advice. I found myself nodding in agreement and thinking "Yes" as I read along!
This is a huge accomplishment and a great gift to those who
are confused by and stuck in patterns of self love denial. I hope you
enjoy great success with this book, no only because you deserve it for a job
well done, but also because your success means that many people are benefiting
from your wisdom. That would be a good thing!
Self-Love Secrets is a must-read for anyone who is interested in
manifesting abundance. As Evelyn has mentioned in her book, not many of
us are actually aware that the vibration of abundance is a creative
energy of love. We are therefore not aware that we need to align
ourselves with love before we can truly manifest more wealth. The best
place is to start from within. We need to first learn to love
ourselves. Unfortunately, most of us face great difficulties even with
Evelyn's book is a comprehensive guide for healthy self-love. She
has included a number of real-life cases to show how a person's life can
be negatively affected when there is a lack of love for the self. Her
book has the answers for manifesting a most amazing life for yourself.
It leads you from the space of inner lack to one of fullness. Thus, it
increases your capacity to receive and have more from the Universe.
I highly recommend Self-Love Secrets. It is suitable for those who
are keen on applying the Law of Attraction but who have not yielded
positive results, spiritual practitioners, energy healers or just about
anyone who is interested in his or own personal growth. A
transformational piece of work!
Author of "Sail with the Wind"
What Evelyn has shared will touch everyone in some way - no matter where
each of us is on our journey. Self-love is something that we can all
experience, and continue to cultivate more deeply into our being.
Evelyn's mix of her own personal journeys along with other stories makes
this book an engaging read. More than that, though, it really gets to
the heart of what love is, and how we make that part of our daily life.
All of this - the stories, the layout, the practical idea on being more self-loving - makes this book a joy to read!
Life Guide, Online Creator, Adventurer
Benefits to Loving Yourself More Fully
If you are facing challenges with coping with issues on self-love
or self-esteem, then you will need to read Self-Love Secrets. Most certainly, an increased ability to love
yourself more fully can have tremendous positive impact on your life. Here are some of the possible benefits that you may derive:
You become happier as a
person because you are better able to accept your flaws, imperfections and
Your self-talk becomes
Your well-being improves;
You are able to practice
forgiveness and compassion;
You enhance your ability
to receive love because you know that you are deserving;
By being self-accepting,
you also become more accepting of others;
Your relationships with
your spouse, loved ones, friends, colleagues and clients improve
relationships, you enhance your ability to become successful;
Your energetic vibrations
become more positive and hence, you enhance your ability to attract more
You enhance your ability
to reach maximum potential, because you are less inclined to putting
You are able to honor your
You are better able to
align with your higher purpose, thus leading a more fulfilling life.
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When you make a decision to love yourself, you are
really saying that you want to come alive. You
accept that you are responsible for the outcomes that you experience in your
life and would like yourself to shine from living a fulfilling life.
Hence, do not procrastinate any longer. It is possible to feel better right away. Do not continue to allow your current negative
self-talk hijack your right to happiness. Learn how to break free from habitual thought patterns and align with
the loving part of you.
As the famous philosopher, Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, "Most
of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one's own sunshine." Hence, consider stepping into the light by learning the keys to loving yourself.
Shine from the soul always,
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